This is something I have been reflecting on today. Vulnerability. The ability to be vulnerable... with yourself, with others, to allow yourself to feel your feelings, be yourself, and just not have it all together all the time.
Vulnerability can be a struggle. Some folks grew up in a home where they were not allowed to show any weakness. Or some were the strong one in their family, and continue that role into adulthood... always being strong for everyone else. Some feel that their family would fall apart if they cannot keep themselves together. But sometimes... we just can't. EVERYONE has a point that they reach where they need a hand, an ear, a shoulder, of a friend or loved one.
There is power in being vulnerable. Whether it is writing in your journal and being totally honest with yourself, talking to a trusted friend, family member, or partner, or whether it is being really honest with your therapist. There is power in admitting your soft, squishy spots.
I love Brené Brown. She has a great TedTalk on vulnerability you can watch here. She has written many books about vulnerability and courage, has great videos, and also hosts live events. I have seen her live twice. She speaks to me as a social worker and a mom, and she keeps it real. She says "In order for connection to happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen." Being vulnerable with others deepens our connection with them, and ultimately with ourselves.
We are collectively going through a rough time right now. We are coping with a pandemic, having to distance ourselves physically from each other, and as parents we are having to shoulder all of our childrens' needs alone. You know the saying... it takes a village to raise a child. Well, our village is currently broken apart and sheltered into our individual homes.
Take courage. Reach out via Facebook messenger, Instagram messenger, Marco Polo, your regular phone... just reach out. To someone you trust. Someone you can be real with. Share your feelings, hopes, and fears. Reach out, have courage, and be encouraged. We are in this together.